Some Christians are always advising the rest of us to be “winsome” as we try to save our civilization from being melted down and turned into slag by leftids. I dunno, maybe it’s just sour grapes on my part: when I try to be winsome, the effect is invariably grotesque.
https://leeduigon.com/2015/07/15/winsome-were-supposed-to-be-winsome/
I”m sorry to have to say it, but I’ve learned the hard way that you just can’t be nice to certain people. It only encourages them to do their worst.